Your Wife Is Not a Prostitute; Don't Treat Her Like One.
By Jimmy Sliwa
It’s no secret; guys think about sex a lot.
Actually, more than double the amount that women do.
While on the surface this may seem like an obsession, it is actually all part of God’s design.
God knew full well what he was doing when he loaded man up with testosterone and said, “it is very good.”
As a guy, you should not deride the fact that you are a sexual being. It’s a fact of life; embrace it! Take your sexual nature and use it for good.
What I’m trying to get as is…
We all have a sex drive, but should never let sex take the driver seat.
Self-Control
You need to learn to control your sexual desires.
You need self-control.
As a husband, the ONLY way that you must channel your sexual attention is to your wife.
This is totally healthy, and actually an amazing gift your wife can give. If you reserve yourself for her, she is the ONLY one that can satisfy you sexually.
Don’t steal that gift away from her by wandering eyes or fantasful thoughts.
One way that husbands can take advantage of sex is trying to get sex out of their wife by giving her gifts – even in the subconscious.
What I mean is that sometimes guys will do a nice gesture for their wife simply because they think they might get sex out of it.
It’s not uncommon for some husbands to buy flowers with the hope that their wife will have sex with them.
Your wife is not a prostitute, so don’t treat her like one.
You should NEVER try to ‘buy’ sex from her by flowering her with gifts.
Giving gifts should come from pure motives and good intentions. Don’t let your desire for sex be your motivation to bless your wife.
If you want to have sex, ask her.
Don’t try to buy sex from her by serving her cheap drugstore flowers.
She is your wife, and she loves you. If you explain how sex is important to you, she should be willing to have sex.
This comes with a caveat.
*****Don’t expect some grand display of sexuallity every time that you have sex. This is another example of putting unrealistic expectations on your wife; she may not be as horny as you all the time.*****
A quickie or other more simple sexual expressions are good from time to time.
We at The Husbands Club are passionate that men love their wife with NO STRINGS ATTACHED. This means that you should serve your wife without expecting anything in return.
- You should NOT expect to get sex from our wife just because you did something nice.
- You SHOULD expect to get sex from your wife because she loves you and cares about your needs as her husband.
True, sacrificial love will sustain good sex in marriage.
What I mean is that serving your wife even is she doesn’t serve you back will improve your sex life in the long run.
And it’s not always fair. Sometimes you may feel rejected or shut down if your wife doesn’t want to have sex in the moment. Take this as a sign that you should double down on serving your wife.
Most likely she isn’t rejecting you; maybe she is tired or overwhelmed or lonely.
So I challenge YOU, aim to serve her without expecting sex in return!
