In the past, dating wasn’t just about casual fun; it was an intentional process with marriage in mind. Courtship revives this idea that the purpose of dating is to find a lifelong partner.

We should bring back courtship in which couples prioritize values and respect over physical intimacy.

Traditionally, courtship often involved family introductions and mentorship to ensure the relationship was built on a solid foundation. Reviving this tradition doesn’t mean letting other make your decisions, but acknowledges that others have wisdom to share. Getting to know one other’s family, asking for spiritual guidance, and hearing community input are all elements related to courting.

By involving family, community, and mentorship, courtship creates a support system that strengthens the relationship and helps couples navigate challenges with wisdom and accountability. 

Reviving this tradition could bring more clarity, purpose, and depth to modern relationships.

2. Handwritten Love Letters

Before there was instant messaging, couples expressed their deepest feelings through handwritten letters. Handwritten letters have an intimacy that no text message or email can replicate. 

They take time, effort, and thoughtfulness—qualities that convey genuine care. Reviving this tradition can infuse relationships with emotion and create keepsakes to cherish for years to come. 

I love going back and reading all the love notes that my wife and I shared over the years. It stands as a reminder of how much passion we had for one another. 

3. Asking for Her Hand in Marriage

Traditionally, a man would seek the blessing of his future spouse’s father before proposing. While some disregard this as old-fashioned, it symbolized respect and a desire to build a relationship between families, not just individuals. 

And let’s face it; when you get married you are also getting her side of the family. You might as well get their blessing and glean their wisdom. 

4. Forego Cohabitation

The stats are out, ‘testing out’ your relationship with cohabitation does not increase your odds of a healthy marriage. It actually may increase your risks of divorce. Compared to years past, cohabitation has significantly increased, with 70% of U.S. couples cohabitating before getting married. 

In many old-fashioned traditions, couples valued abstinence before marriage as a way to prioritize emotional intimacy and commitment. While this may not align with everyone’s beliefs today, the underlying principle of respecting boundaries and focusing on building a deep emotional connection is a practice worth considering.

5. Marriage Sabbaths

Couples in the past often observed a “marriage sabbath,” dedicating one day a week to rest, reconnect, and focus on their family. Personally, this is one tradition my wife and I strive to accomplish each weekend. 

In today’s busy world, setting aside regular time for uninterrupted connection can rejuvenate a marriage and strengthen the bond between partners. Quality time is the glue that holds relationships together. If you find that you and your wife are too busy for connection, considering trying a weekly marriage sabbath and disconnect from the rest of the world. 

6. Family Meals

There was a time when sharing meals at the family table was a daily ritual. I know my grandparents sat down as a family for most every meal of the week. This gave them an opportunity to connect with one another and with their kids, strengthening the entire family unit. 

Table talk gives family an opportunity to engage in conversation and deepen their connection. Bringing back this tradition, even in the midst of busy schedules, can create meaningful daily touchpoints.

7. Sunday Strolls

Taking quiet walks together was a cherished activity for many couples of the past. This simple tradition allowed partners to enjoy each other’s company, unplug from distractions, and engage in meaningful conversations.

The beauty of walking together is that it helps to sink up the rhythm of the couple walking. Going for easy strolls allows you and your wife a moment to get back in sync before the crazy work week starts again. 

8. Community Support for Marriages

In the past, friends and family played a vital role in supporting marriages, offering advice and encouragement during tough times. Building a strong support network today can foster resilience and provide a sense of belonging, strengthening the relationship.