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7 Ways to Convince Your Wife She is Beautiful

By Jimmy Sliwa

Complete this phrase!

 

Mirror, mirror on the wall, who’s the _________ of them all?” This is an age-old question that nearly every woman asks at some point.

 

It may not be out loud, but nearly every woman looks into the mirror and picks apart her “flaws.”

 

Your wife does it too. 

 

The frightening reality is that our culture is constantly whispering to your wife that she is not beautiful enough. As if beauty is something that can actually be achieved.

 

The sad part is that your wife may actually believe the lie that she isn’t the fairest of them all.

 

She may start to believe the falsehoods that her stretch marks or cellulite makes her less than ideal. She may look at other women and wish she had something that they had.

 

Eyes, Teeth, Hair, Figure, Skin…the list goes on.

She may even hold herself to a standard of beauty that is unattainable because we all grow old and get wrinkles and gray hair.

It’s terribly sad to think that many women struggle to feel beautiful even if their husband tells them so. 

Every woman wants to feel like they are the only one in the room. It’s in their DNA because this is how God uniquely created them, with a longing to be beautiful. 

As your wife’s husband you have the most powerful voice to tell her how beautiful she is.  

On the other hand, you also have the ability to crush her spirit. Your words and actions hold tremendous weight. 

Don’t let your wife live the lie that she is not good enough.

 

Here are 7 simple, yet highly effective ways to convince your wife that she is beautiful. 

7 Ways to Convince Your Wife She is Beautiful


1. Tell Her She is Beautiful to Her Face

The simplest way to let your wife know she is beautiful is to tell her to her face. I suggest that you tell her she is beautiful on a daily basis. My wife told me it’s not possible to say “you are beautiful” too much.

 

Throw in other adjectives to hit this from a variety of ways. (I.e. – You are gorgeous, stunning, captivating, breathtaking, eye-candy.)

2. Tell Her She is Beautiful in Front of the Kids

It’s one thing to tell your wife she is beautiful; it’s another thing to tell her in front of the kids. This adds another layer of belief into the mix.

 

The cool thing is that your children will catch on and actually start to repeat what you say. It is super cool to hear your son tell their mom that she is the most beautiful woman in the world. 

3. Don't Look At Porn

Nothing crushed my wife’s confidence more than when she discovered that I had looked at pornography. Make a covenant with your eyes not to look lustfully at another woman. 

 

Porn sets unrealistic expectations on your wife. She shouldn’t ever feel the need to compete against anyone let alone “fake” or “enhanced” images/ videos.

4. Compliment her Physical attributes

Pick out some of her highly desirable qualities and make that be known. Is it her eyes or her smile that captivate you? Let her know this.

 

Maybe it’s her hair as it sits in a messy bun or maybe her skin tone after that Hawaiian vacation. Whatever details you notice about your wife, say it to her. 

5. Tell Her She's Beautiful in a Variety of Ways

 

Words are great, but you can also say “you’re beautiful” in many other ways.

 

Texting, love notes, or making her your Woman crush Wednesday post, are all simple yet highly effective gestures to convince your wife that you have the hots for her. 

6. Bounce Your Eyes

Don’t let your eyes linger on other women. When I am at a crowded beach, I let my wife know that I am intentionally bouncing my eyes from women in bikinis. I do this because I don’t want my wife to feel that she has to compare her body to anyone else. My eyes are reserved for her.

7. tell other people you have a beautiful wife

Your wife may never hear you say it, but it’s still good to do. You want your wife to look good in all situations to all people. So go ahead and tell her friends or her parents that you think your wife is beautiful.  

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