Be the Man Your Wife Agreed to Marry
By Jimmy Sliwa
If you hang around The Husband’s Club community long enough you will inevitably see this quote. “Be the man your wife agreed to marry.” We love this quote because it captures the principle goal of the club.
Be a man of your word!
Your wife agreed to marry you based on your word.
When you were dating your wife, your words held weight. You showed up early. You followed through with your promises. You made her feel like the only woman in the room.
Think back to your dating experience. You likely put your best foot forward because you wanted to win her heart. You showed off your best qualities so that she would desire you.
And lucky you, she agreed to marry you because you are a one-of-a-kind guy!
But then you stopped pursuing her, and your promises didn’t mean quite as much as they once did.
Don’t hang your head in shame!
I have definitely been there. In fact, I have never met a man who remained as romantic in marriage as they were in dating. It’s a natural progression of love.
And it’s not just the guys who put their best foot forward in dating, women do it too. We all want to look and be our best version so that we are desirable. We hide our deep issues and the ugly parts because we don’t want anyone to see those.
But can we talk about false advertisements?
In my opinion, this can be a problem with dating, especially serial dating. You get this endorphin rush and mistake it for love. It’s actually a lot closer to infatuation than true love. You show off your best side, but not your true colors.
The point I am getting at is, can you really love someone that you have never had a significant disagreement with? Can you really love someone if you only know their good side?
Love is a choice and not a feeling.
Love is steady and not fickle.
Love doesn’t change on a day to day basis.
Love is patient with mistakes.
Love doesn’t keep a record of wrong doings.
Love endures good and bad times.
So as members of The Husband’s Club, we take priority in what we can control. And in your marriage, all that you can control is yourself. You will get nowhere blaming your spouse or environmental factors. You can control your attitude and response and that is all.
So we put the challenge out there: Be the Man Your Wife Agreed to Marry.
Be Kind. Be Brave. Have Integrity. Be Thoughtful. Be Honest. Be Gentle. Be Faithful. Be Humble. Be Bold. Be Courageous. Be Intentional.
