25 Best Signs He is Husband Material
By Jimmy Sliwa
Before I even met my wife, she created a list of “non-negotiables” she was looking for in a man.
Among the list were some qualities like:
- Strong work ethic
- Good With Kids
- Faithful in the little things
This was her attempt to make sure that the guy she married was pure husband material.
The phrase “Husband Material“ refers to a man who possesses the qualities that make him a great life partner.
It’s much more than superficial traits like appearance or wealth. A man that is true “Husband Material” has character traits that ensure a healthy relationship.
I think that it was a great idea my wife wrote out all the qualities that she was looking for in a man. This helped her to weed out all the players and fine me! 😀
While no one is perfect, there are certain qualities and behaviors that indicate that a man is ready to be a loving and committed marriage.
In this post I will share 25 signs that tell you if a man is husband material or not.
25 Signs He is Husband Material
1. You Are Equally Yoked
Being equally yoked means sharing core values and beliefs. It’s the vision of two oxen being tied to the same plow. If you want a man that is husband material, he needs to be on the same page as you in your core values. Whether it’s your faith or vision for the future, alignment ensures you’re walking the same path together.
2. He Respects You
Respect is foundational and cannot be overstated. A good husband will acknowledge your individuality and treat you as an equal partner. He won’t try to mold you to be something you are not. If he respects you, he values your opinions, supports your decisions, and doesn’t belittle or undermine you, even during disagreements.
3. He Shows Emotional Maturity
When conflicts arise, a mature man will handle them calmly and constructively. He doesn’t resort to passive-aggressiveness or avoid important conversations. It’s a good sign when a man can disagree but have the emotional maturity to talk things out.
4. He’s Supportive of Your Goals
A great husband will encourage his wife’s ambitions. He’s your cheerleader, celebrating your wins and helping you through setbacks. Beware of a man that is so focused on his own career aspirations that he has little time for others.
5. He Has a Strong Work Ethic
No one wants to be married to a sack of lazy bones. A man who works hard is not only attractive but makes life more secure and fulfilling. His dedication shows that he’s willing to put in the effort to build a stable future.
6. He’s Financially Responsible
While wealth isn’t everything, financial responsibility shows he can manage money wisely. A man that displays husband material should not be in uncontrolled consumer debt and should be saving for the future. Before getting married, a financially responsible man will be open and honest about his personal finances. These are signs he is husband material.
7. He Can Apologize
Admitting fault takes courage and humility; both of which are excellent qualities in a husband. If he can acknowledge his mistakes and make amends without defensiveness or excuses, this shows he values growth over ego.
8. He’s Trustworthy
Trust is non-negotiable. End of story. If a man doesn’t keep his promises or follows through on commitments stay far away; he isn’t husband material.
9. He’s Kind
A true gentleman is kind. You will know that he is kind if his words are edifying and his actions are compassionate. If you want to know if a man is husband material, just watch how he treats others.
10. He Values Family
It’s a good sign when a man maintains a strong relationship with his family. Equally, he should be eager to build a supportive family with you. His respect for family traditions and his ability to navigate family dynamics with grace are strong indicators of his values.
11. He’s Patient
When the Bible defines love, the first thing it says is, “Love is patient.” A man that is impatient and demanding is incapable of demonstrating love. Patience is essential in navigating life’s inevitable ups and downs. Keep an eye out for a man that can keep his cool in all situations.
12. He Makes You Laugh
A shared sense of humor helps keep the relationship light-hearted and fun. A promising future husband knows how to lift your spirits and make even the mundane moments enjoyable.
13. He’s Dependable
As you grow together, you want to know you can depend on your spouse. Knowing you can count on him to follow through on his promises, whether it’s a small favor or a major commitment is critical. A man of substance should consistently show up for you, providing a sense of security and stability.
14. He’s Willing to Compromise
A successful marriage requires give and take. A mature husband understands that a successful partnership involves balancing both your needs and his. It’s a red flag if a man is selfish and puts his needs/wants ahead of others.
15. He’s Great with Kids (or Open to Learning)
If having children is part of the plan, a man that’s husband material will either be naturally good with kids or shows a willingness to learn. His patience, playfulness, and sense of responsibility indicate he’d be a great father.
16. He’s Faithful
This is another ‘non-starter.’ If he aint loyal and committed, he aint worth the time. You can tell if someone will be faithful by watching them in the little things. A man that is faithful in little will also be faithful in much. Does he honor commitments? Does he avoid pornography? Does he speak honestly? These can all be signs of his faithfulness.
17. He Maintains Healthy Boundaries
No one wants a leech. A healthy guy will respect your need for personal space and independence while also setting boundaries for himself. This balance prevents codependency and ensures both of you maintain your individuality within the relationship.
18. He Can Handle Stress
Life is full of challenges, and his ability to stay calm and composed under pressure is a major asset. He doesn’t let stress overwhelm him or negatively affect your relationship, instead finding constructive ways to cope. Watch out for anger issues when stress arises.
19. He Shares Similar Values
Shared values provide a strong foundation for decision-making and life planning. Whether it’s how many kids to have, political views, or how to handle finances, having aligned priorities makes it easier to navigate life together.
20. He Isn’t Afraid to Show Affection
Affection can come in many forms, from physical touch like hugs and kisses to verbal affirmations and thoughtful gestures. If he makes you feel loved and valued in ways that resonate with you then you are off to a great start.
21. He Takes Care of His Health
If a man doesn’t respect his own body, there is little chance he will respect yours. a healthy man understands the importance of staying physically and mentally healthy. This not only shows self-respect but also indicates he’s invested in a long and healthy life together.
22. He’s a Good Listener
He doesn’t just wait for his turn to speak; he truly listens and engages with what you’re saying. He seeks to understand your feelings and perspectives, making you feel heard and valued.
23. He’s Ambitious
Ambition doesn’t mean chasing wealth or status; it means he has goals and works towards them. His drive for personal and professional growth shows he’s committed to a fulfilling life for both of you.
24. He Enjoys Spending Time With You
Quality time together strengthens your bond. Any husband worth his salt will make time for his gal.
25. He Makes You Feel Loved and Appreciated
Above all, a man that is husband material will consistently show that he values you. Through his words and actions, he makes you feel secure, cherished, and deeply loved, leaving no doubt about his commitment.
