31 Great Examples of Modern Chivalry
By Jimmy Sliwa
Chivalry isn’t dead… it’s just old school.
I’ll prove it to you.
Just last week, I watched my sister glow as she talked about how her boyfriend checked to see that she made it home safe.
This got me thinking. It’s amazing how such a small, thoughtful gesture can make a woman’s day.
And that is the perfect definition of modern chivalry.
Modern chivalry is making a concerted effort to make your gal feel special and valued. In modern times this means that you break from tradition and make your lady stand out in this hectic world.
You don’t have to be a knight in shining armor. You just have to be attentive and intentional. You need to be attentive to her needs and intentional in your act to bless her.
In more simple terms, being chivalrous means to be a gentleman.
Being a gentleman shouldn’t be reserved for dating couples. Marriages benefit from acts of chivalry as well.
You as a husband should strive for modern chivalry.
Why should you strive to be a chivalrous husband?
- It makes you more attractive to your wife
- It will teach your sons to be honorable
- It will show your daughters what to look for in a husband
If you are interested in developing your personal code of chivalry, it starts by knowing how to act to make her smile.
Below is a list of 31 Acts of Modern Chivalry that will never go out of style.
1. Open Her Car Door On a Date
This simple act of chivalry demonstrates both respect and consideration. It’s a classic way to signify that you care about your gal’s well-being as well as sets the tone for the relationship. Just because this act of chivalry has become less common in modern times doesn’t mean it has gone out of style.
2. Cover Her Head If its Raining
This small gesture highlights your desire to protect your lady from discomfort. It demonstrates your willingness to go out of your way to protect her from the environment. No doubt she will really appreciate this gesture, especially if she has styled her hair.
3. Walk on the Sidewalk Closest to the Street
This chivalrous act reflects traditional manners and a protective instinct. It’s important as it communicates your commitment to her safety, showing that you prioritize her well-being even in everyday situations.
4. Buy Her Flowers - Just Because
Your wife wants to know that she is on your mind. Gifting flowers without a specific occasion is important because it demonstrates both thoughtfulness and appreciation. It’s a great way to express your affection and totally brighten her day. It’s best if it’s done totally unexpectedly.
5. Check to Make Sure She Made it Home Safe
A true gentle man has genuine concern for his wife’s safety. Checking to make sure she made it home safe reinforces your protective instincts and shows you care about her welfare beyond the time you spend together. It can be as simple as a text message or phone call just to make sure your wife is safe and sound.
6. Pay the Bill at the Restaurant
Traditional? I think not. Paying the bill is a timeless gesture of courtesy that conveys your readiness to invest in the relationship. It’s important as it exhibits responsibility and generosity, contributing to a positive dating experience.
7. Let Her Order Food First
Ladies First! Allowing your wife to order first is a sign of courtesy. It’s a respectful move because it acknowledges her preferences and makes her feel that her choices are valuable.
8. Lend Her Your Coat if She is Cold
A big part of chivalry is making your bride feel comfortable. If you notice that she is cold, make the sacrifice and lend her your jacket.
9. Get to Know Your In-Laws
Let’s face it, when you married your wife, you also got the in-laws. Building a positive relationship with your in-laws is crucial for a harmonious family life. You want your whole family to be unified and share a healthy dynamic; it makes everything easier. Plus, you never know when you might need some babysitters.
10. Kiss Her Softly on the Forehead
A gentle peck on the forehead signifies tenderness and affection without the pressure of intimacy. It’s important as it fosters emotional connection and intimacy in a loving relationship.
11. Compliment Her Beauty Even When She Isn't Dolled Up
Your wife wants to know that she is beautiful even when she isn’t dolled up. Go ahead and reinforce your attractiveness to your wife and give her plenty of compliments for her natural beauty.
12. Give Up Your Seat if She Doesn't Have One
Offering your seat is a courteous gesture. It’s a terrific move because it demonstrates your consideration for her even in a public setting.
13. Offer to Hold Her Hand
Take your relationship back to the innocent days and show off a little PDA. It may be a simple gesture but its also a powerful way to connect emotionally. It signifies your desire for physical closeness and emotional connection within the relationship.
14. Carry Heavy Things so She Doesn't Have Too
Go ahead and show off a little muscle. This manly gesture shows that you are willing to help her in very practical ways. Again, it reiterates your consideration of her.
15. Take Pictures Without Complaining
Being willing to take pictures together, even if it’s not your favorite activity, is important because it shows your willingness to participate in shared experiences. Put a smile on and ego aside and go ahead and create lasting memories with your wife.
16. Have Manners - Avoid Belching and Farting
There is no way to make belching and farting attractive. Drop these activities from your daily routine or at least save them for a time when you are alone. Just trust us on this one.
17. Show a Little PDA (public display of affection)
It’s still gentlemanly to show moderate amount of affection for your wife in public. This lets her know that you are proud of her and are willing to put your relationship on a public display.
18. Don't Check Out Other Women
A gentleman always respects the boundaries of his relationship. Don’t harm your relationship with your wife by checking out other women. This is not only respectful but also necessary for a healthy and trusting marriage.
19. Offer to Dance Even When It's Uncomfortable
If your wife likes to dance, you ought to set your pride aside and join her. Dancing together, even when it’s outside your comfort zone, can be a fun way to bond and enjoy a social event (i.e. wedding or concert). Don’t let pride get in the way of your chivalry.
20. Ask Questions About Herself
Showing a genuine interest in her thoughts, feeling, and experiences is crucial for building a deep connection. It will help foster communication that is important for intimacy in relationship. Don’t just talk about yourself but include her in the conversations.
21. Put Your Cell Phone Away on Date Nights
Disconnecting from your phone and connecting with your spouse is the basics of chivalry. By putting your cell phone away, you are communicating with your partner that you are present and engaged.
22. Take Ownership When You Made a Mistake
Accepting responsibility for your mistakes is crucial for maintaining trust and resolving conflict in a healthy manner. By owning up, you are showcasing your integrity and commitment to growth in the relationship.
23. Drop Her Off at the Front Door
It’s a simple, courteous act that will speak volumes to your wife. Simply drop her off near the door so she doesn’t have to walk across the parking lot or street. She will appreciate the consideration.
24. Remember Her Coffee Order
One of the easiest ways to show attention to detail is to remember her coffee order. Even a small act like this will show that you pay attention to her preferences, making her feel valued.
25. Remember Important Dates (anniversary, birthdays, Valentines ect...)
Guys don’t always look forward at the calendar and as a result can miss important dates. Instead place reminders in your phone so that you never miss an important anniversary or date ever again.
26. Be Sensitive and Gentle When She is Sad
Providing emotional support when she is feeling down is an awesome way to build connection and intimacy. Real men are not afraid to show emotion. If you notice your lady feeling sad, draw closer to her with a gentle and lowly spirit.
27. Let Her Have the Last Bite
Food can be a touchy subject, but c’mon, it won’t kill you to give her the last bite. Sharing the last bite of pie will show her that you are selfless.
28. Take Care of Her When She is Sick
Providing care and comfort is chivalry at the core. By taking care of her when she is sick will show your nurturing and caring side. Some great examples are cooking chicken noodle soup, give her blankets, scratch her back, buy her Gatorade etc…
29. Speak Highly of Her to Your Friends
A man should never speak poorly of his wife around friends. Instead, aim to speak positively about your spouse to friends and family. This demonstrates your pride and admiration for your partner. It will also help strengthen her self-esteem because she hears how uplifting you are.
30. Write Her a Poem
Roses are red, violets are blue, writing a poem is chivalrous too!
A poem is a heartfelt way to express your love and emotion towards your wife. Add a romantic touch to chivalry by penning a handwritten poem.
31. Arrange a Babysitter for Date Night
Taking the initiative to arrange a babysitter for date night will totally surprise your wife. It shows that you have put forethought into date night and are eager to take her out.
Conclusion:
Chivalry will never go out of style.
It may no longer be characterized by a knight in shining armor anymore, but thoughtfulness will always be relevant. If you want to develop your own personal code of modern chivalry, you need to prioritize small and thoughtful gestures into your romantic relationship. As you prioritize modern chivalry, watch as your relationship blooms.
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